Hitting puberty can be like hitting a brick
wall for a girl.
One day she's playing soccer and softball and hanging
out with her girlfriends. The next day she can feel pressure
to be pretty, thin, flirtatious and not too smart if she
wants to be popular with boys.
How's a girl to navigate her way around this trap?
Molly Barker of Charlotte, N.C., thinks she's hit on
a solid solution. She's the founder of Girls on the
Run, an innovative program that prepares young girls
for the pitfalls of puberty by combining a big dose of
running with games, exercises and discussions designed
to enhance a girl's self-esteem so she can enter her teens
with confidence.
"I really believe that women struggle to remain
true to themselves," said Barker, a former Ironman
triathlete with a master's degree in social work.
When she was a teen, Barker wrestled with the pressure
to fit into what she calls "the girl box," to
be popular. Girls on the Run is her effort to reach
young girls before they encounter such teen-years turmoil.
The effort seems to be paying off. Begun as an after-school
program in 1996 with 13 third-graders from Charlotte,
Girls on the Run now operates in 198 cities in
the United States and Canada, and has reached approximately
40,000 eight- and nine-year-olds, Barker said. Half of
the girls who participate in one 12-week, 24-lesson session
sign up for more. And a new program called Girls on
Track is being unveiled for older girls who are entering
middle school.
"The activities make you feel really good about
yourself. I've learned that you don't have to look like
a supermodel to be loveable," said Madeleine Moore,
a 10-year-old graduate of the Charlotte program.
"I have more confidence," agreed Tuesday Welch,
an 11-year-old Charlotte graduate who has signed up for
Girls on Track. "I've learned to look at myself
on the inside, and not listen to what other people say
about me."
A Girls on the Run program, which meets twice
weekly after school, offers running at a track as the
centerpiece for each session. But exercise is only part
of the goal. The broader aim is to enhance the girls'
social, emotional, physical and spiritual health, Barker
said.
"The program is founded on three key concepts,"
Barker said. The first four weeks help the girls to think
about themselves in an objective way -- "This is
what I believe and this is what I stand for," she
said.
To make it fun, Barker has created games, including one
in which the names of different emotions -- anger, anxiety,
joy and sadness, for example -- are written on separate
index cards. The girls race each other while compiling
a bingo-like collection of the cards, then talk about
their own emotions and how to best manage them.
The second four weeks of the program, again including
relay races and other physical activity, focuses on teamwork,
dealing with conflict (such as learning how not to gossip)
and building a sense of connectedness with each other.
Finally, the girls learn to understand they're part of
a larger community and can use their skills and power
to change the community for the better.
Nadine Koslow, professor and chief psychologist at Emory
University School of Medicine, said, "This is a wonderful
age to start this. The healthier foundation you have,
the more you have to build on so that when things get
stressful, you have the resources to cope with them."
And, she added, the non-competitive nature of the program
teaches the girls teamwork and builds their self-confidence.
Melissa Welch, Tuesday's mother, is delighted with the
lessons her daughter has learned from Girls on the
Run, and wishes it could continue as her child gets
older.
"It's going to end before she outgrows it,"
she said.
